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Aspies Hate Christmas...?

It's not just about Christmas!

People on the Spectrum often struggle with social anxiety, and with what is expected when it comes to other people. In turn, their loved ones struggle in knowing what to do to help.

Not all aspies feel the same way about all social expectations and events. Or about people, life, potatoes, walks in the park, Netflix binge-watching or Stranger Things. We are all individuals. This book is a starting point, a clearer look at how it feels to be trapped in the middle of a social experience even though the door is right over there.

The perfect solution doesn't often exist, and if it did, don't you think we'd have found it already? Let us lean towards the imperfect solutions, the ones that make life okay, make it softer when expectations hit and easier to say No.

Written for aspies and their best beloveds, families and friends, both views of social life appear in the book, the one we are 'supposed' to have and the one we can find once we relax into our true selves.

I can't tell you everything, only people can do that - and then they can only tell you about themselves. This book is a step towards understanding the full stop at the door, the plea not to leave the car, the absence of an aspie when you are all ready to go.

Most of all, I want you to remember you can say Yes as well as No.

Aspies Hate Christmas is available on Amazon in print and Kindle, and from Lulu, for anyone who prefers not to use Amazon.


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